Hi Mary Esther, First, I wanted to thank you for the birth class for second time parents. I thought it was really valuable to go over some of the key points from your regular birth class, and to go at it from the perspective of those couples who’d already had baby #1.
My second baby, Amelia, was born on October 15 at Phelps with Full Circle midwives (because of your recommendation – thank you!). I had Kristin Walsh. Although I’d never met her or heard of her before, she was so excellent and exactly what I needed!
My first birth with Isaac was a dramatic story. Long labor, irregular contractions, not building up to the intensity and regularity necessary. He was asynclitic, so wasn’t positioned well to come out. I pushed for 1.5 hours resulting in no progress, then giving a little pitocin, pushed for another 1.5 hours (again on my back), used a vaccuum, extra doctors, his shoulders got stuck, and he was born with retained fluid in his lungs. And straight to the NICU.
Amelia was a completely different story and I accomplished everything I’d hoped for after what happened with Isaac! A textbook second birth. My water sprung a leak at 11:15pm which got things going, not much contracting all night and morning. Took a walk the next afternoon, called the midwives after the walk, and then contractions started picking up mid-late afternoon. By the time I got to the hospital at 5pm, my contractions were 5-6 minutes apart. Met my awesome doula at the hospital, and things escalated from there until Amelia was born 5.5 hours later at 10:25pm. I didn’t have any pain meds, used the tub for a bit right before pushing stage, and pushed Amelia out while on my knees on the hospital bed. Amelia went right to me and started nursing in the delivery room! It was a process to work through lingering feelings and fears from Isaac’s birth, and to figure out what I wanted out of my second birth.
Something I found remarkable was that during my second birth, I used a lot more of what I learned from your birth class than for my first birth. While I was in labor, things that you taught all of a sudden came back to me, such as keeping your voice low when vocalizing through a contraction.
Thanks again for all you’ve done for me and my family!