We understand that medical concerns may take precedent over our wishes, but we would like you to know what is important to us as parents if we birth by cesarean.
- We would like to know the names of the people providing us care. Please introduce yourselves!
- We would like our midwife and/or doula to be present.
- We would like to play music.
- We would like to announce the baby’s sex.
- We would / would not like to do the microbial vaginal swab. (We will need a sterile gauze pad and a sterile plastic bag).
- We would like to respectfully ask doctors and nurses to limit conversation to what is relevant to the birth.
- Please do / do not tell us what is happening with the surgery.
- Please let us know if you will administer anesthesia that may affect the mother mentally.
- Please delay cord clamping for our baby for one to two minutes.
- Please pass our baby to us under the curtain, if possible.
- If the baby goes directly to the warmer, I would / would not like to see my baby first before the baby is wiped off.
- Please invite my birth partner to the warmer as soon as possible.
- Please return the baby to our side as soon as possible.
- Please assist us with skin to skin contact in the operating room.
- Please assist us with breastfeeding in the operating room / please assist us with breastfeeding in the recovery room.
- Please discuss single vs double layer suturing with the repair.
- Please save the placenta for us to see (or take home).
- Please do all you can to keep mother and baby together after the birth and help us get bonding and breastfeeding off to a good start.
Thank you very much for your care!
By Mary Esther Malloy, from themindfulcesarean.com