Hi Mary Esther- Mickey and Cathleen here, with a little tagalong named Graham.
We wanted to write and thank you SO much for the class, which was more helpful in birthing Graham than we ever could have imagined. We wanted to let you know how it all went, and how your class made it possible.
As I’m sure you remember, her water broke at about 10pm last Sunday. We got some rest that night (about 3 1/2 hours,) knowing we would need it the next day. The next day after calling you we took a walk, got some food, and prepared to head in to the hospital.
On the way there we discussed the 24 hour rule for water breaking that hospitals tended to have, and I was a little worried that since we weren’t getting in until 4 that they would recommend C-section. Well, we got in and got examined (small contractions happening since about 2am the previous night) and saw the doctor, and she was actually wonderful! Despite my being ever-suspicious of being steamrolled, the doctor was nothing but accommodating, and she insisted, “We’d like to give you the Pitocin to speed things up, but everything is going fine. You should have your baby naturally by tonight or maybe tomorrow. We like to deliver within 24 hours, but if it is going long- as long as everyone seems to be healthy and the labor is progressing- we’ll stick with doing it naturally.”
So we did!
We got into the room, we got Pitocin, and things quickly got… SERIOUS. It started off that she needed to stand when a contraction came, and hang on me in the slow dance position. (this was my favorite one, as there was a lot of bodily contact, and I felt like I was literally SUPPORTING her.) But then things amped up again as we got into the next stage, and she was on the birthing ball and needed her lower back squeezed tight. But then! Then… we sprinted into active labor.
This is where the class REALLY saved us. Right on schedule, she hit the “I can’t do this!” stage. If I hadn’t known it was coming, among the moans and screams, I would have fled to a nurse in terror and asked them to make it stop. But she kept on!
Then the real screaming began! If you had not told us that some women are just screamers, and that is the way they labor, I would have fled to a nurse in terror and DEMANDED they make it stop! But she took them one howling contraction at a time and kept on…
When it came time to push, there were only 14 more minutes (maybe 5 contractions?) until Graham was placed on her chest, all the goodies were done flowing through the cord, and we were left to revel.
In working with her this whole time, I was able to find some things she needed to hear, learn when she needed to hear them, and deployed those strategies constantly. What felt like I was kind of stretching, trying awkwardly to think of creative assuring things to say in the class setting, came completely naturally when I was in the trenches. Because I was prepared. And she was prepared.
Graham was born at 9:34pm on Monday, a TINY thing (5 pounds 9.9 ounces) but healthy and happy, with all the pieces where they belong.
So we wanted to say thank you again (and again) for making it all possible. Please enjoy your last class with everyone later today, and wish them all the best from us!